Posted by Tracy Mayhue on 1/14/2016
Ever feel annoyed, irritated or stressed? Ever find yourself angry in a moment where you need to be your best self in order to be effective? "Red" feelings are normal and all people experience them from time-time. The Meta Moment is a process created for effectively managing the space in between an emotional trigger and response. That "space' between trigger and response can seem non-existent when tempers flare, or we are overwhelmed with the demands of a busy day. This research-based, six-step process provides the tools to expand that space and, over time, helps people respond to their emotions with their best selves in mind
Students are learning this six-step process over the next several weeks. As this learning process unfolds invite your student to teach you the Meta Moment steps. Possible questions to ask your child:
- Step 1: Describe Meta's facial expression when Something Happens (trigger). What clues in Meta's expression let you know how he's feeling?
- Step 2: Sense. Meta is illustrated with a brain, heart and flushed cheeks. What is going on in Meta's body?
- Step 3: Why does Meta have to Stop in step 3?
- Step 4: What does it mean to See Your Best Self in step 4?
- Step 5: When Meta Strategizes, why is he holding a tool box? Are all strategies helpful?
- Step 6: When Meta Succeeds, how does his face look? Is "responding effectively" the same thing as "it went the way I wanted?"
Further ways to connect:
Early Primary (JK -2nd) When reading with your child, discuss the characters reactions to situations and each other. Describe the facial expressions and the way words are spoken. Reflect together on ways a Meta Moment could help a character respond more effectively.
Primary (3-5) Movie night - when you and your children are watching a family favorite together, look at the interactions between characters, or choices characters make (good and bad). When a character's body language, speech tone and facial expression display a trigger moment, predict how you think that character will respond. (a good one to try: Inside Out)
Jr. High (6-8) Potential moments to notice body language, facial expressions, ineffective vs. effective responses etc:
While watching professional sports together
Discussing current events
Noticing Spiritual leaders, positive change-makers and inspirational everyday people who display Meta Moment behavior in service of making a difference in our world. (How they overcome response immediacy in order to serve a long-term purpose or goal - and the role of trust.)